[fullwidth backgroundcolor=”” backgroundimage=”” backgroundrepeat=”no-repeat” backgroundposition=”left top” backgroundattachment=”scroll” video_webm=”” video_mp4=”” video_ogv=”” video_preview_image=”” overlay_color=”” overlay_opacity=”0.5″ video_mute=”yes” video_loop=”yes” fade=”no” bordersize=”0px” bordercolor=”” borderstyle=”” paddingtop=”20px” paddingbottom=”20px” paddingleft=”0px” paddingright=”0px” menu_anchor=”” equal_height_columns=”no” hundred_percent=”no” class=”” id=””][title size=”1″ content_align=”left” style_type=”single” sep_color=”” class=”” id=””]How and why you should say “No”[/title][fusion_code]
I am a “yes” man.
You need help moving? I’ll be there.
Want me to work overtime again? Of course I’ll help out.
You want to meet for coffee? What time and where? I’ll be there.
You need me to do some work for you? I’d love to help out.
You need me to work in those conditions that aren’t exactly safe? Who am I to say no?
I honestly do love helping people.
I have a natural instinct to want to help. People never have to ask twice. I am usually agreeing or suggesting I help before the story comes out of their mouth. Some may even call me a people pleaser.
I also have a habit of burning myself out. I stretch myself beyond my capabilities and over commit.
When this happens everyone suffers.
My family, my commitments, my safety, my job. We all take a hit.
This got me to thinking that I needed to say no more often.
Something occurred to me.
I was already saying no. I was saying no more than I should.
We all have 24 hours in a day, 168 hours in a week, 8760 hours in a year.
When you say yes to something, you are devoting time to it. That is time that you can’t devote to something else.
When I say yes to helping that friend with his electrical issue, I am saying no to spending time with my kids.
When I say yes to meeting that person for a coffee or a drink, I am saying no to some much needed down time to recharge.
When I say yes to helping that person move, I am saying no to spending a weekend with my family.
When I say yes to working in that unsafe condition, I am saying no to my safety.
I am not saying that I’m going to start saying no to everything. It is still important to help out where I can. Do what I can for others. Be there for friends. Work hard for the job.
What I do need to do is realize that when I am saying yes to something I am saying no to something else. I need to really think about what I am giving up for the yes.
What does my yes mean?
Instead of saying yes as an automatic response I need to carefully consider what that yes means.
Is it taking time from me? My family? People close to me?
I say this to myself as much as I say it to you.
Really take the time to consider what you are saying no to. If you do, you will find yourself saying yes to the right things and everyone will be the better for it.
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